This last month has been really hectic for me, what with long hours of work and getting ready for surgery.
Last night on the Eve of my surgery I went to a Koren bath house. Very new experience for me. It wasn't all the nakedness, just that it was all one race. Yes I was the only brown girl in the place.
I had booked a scrub and a massage. I knew going in the scrub would hurt but I was not prepared. They used this gloves that have ruff sides to them. Being vigorously scrubbed but these things took 'Beauty is Pain' to a whole new level. At points I could have screamed. Seeing all the dead skin they took of was some reward. Being able to endure it took some deep breathing and closed eyes.
After that I was slathered in baby oil and given a great massage. I was given no sympathy in the mention of the hot towels being too hot. She just laughed, "Oh too hot too hot," and patted me on the shoulder and went on with her work.
The table I was on was covered in a thick clear plastic. At the baby oil point I felt like I had to hold on to the sides so as not to slip off. Every nook and cranny had been scrubbed and then oiled. I can say my skin has never felt this soft in years. It did help me take my mind off my worries. Post Script, small breasts can sag, which I didn't know. Awkward moment, having my masseuse try to give me a friendly hug when she is in a bra and underwear and I am stark naked.
I don't know if I can handle the scrub again. It did hurt. What ever you are doing this week, try one new thing.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Work
It has been hard to start a new job these last few weeks. In side my head I thought I was alright, but my body told me I was stressed.
Its true I have not been on my feet in years and it has been taxing. Working with all women is difficult as well. It is so much easier to work with men. You can say what you mean and be blunt without some one crying. I have not sent any women to tears, I just know what would set them off. I make sure not to go there.
I can not mention where I am working, it is just for the holiday's. You can guess. The holiday music is driving me nuts and I know when I have a head ache since I can still hear it, even at my home. In the mean time I take my i pod with me and on breaks and lunch I can drowned out the music with my own.
The dogs are still being well cared for and my chickens are fine as well. That makes me happy and they all miss me when I am gone. Its so weird to see them so happy, like I have been gone for weeks.
Since it is such a short time I will be working, it helps to know it won't be for long. With my feet being so sore all the time, I have to know that its not forever, or even for two months.
With all this whining I have to say, I am grateful to have a job right now and to help out with buying things I need and the house needs and maybe even a few extras. There are some things I need for my car and I can pay for it now. That's the point of working after all.
Its true I have not been on my feet in years and it has been taxing. Working with all women is difficult as well. It is so much easier to work with men. You can say what you mean and be blunt without some one crying. I have not sent any women to tears, I just know what would set them off. I make sure not to go there.
I can not mention where I am working, it is just for the holiday's. You can guess. The holiday music is driving me nuts and I know when I have a head ache since I can still hear it, even at my home. In the mean time I take my i pod with me and on breaks and lunch I can drowned out the music with my own.
The dogs are still being well cared for and my chickens are fine as well. That makes me happy and they all miss me when I am gone. Its so weird to see them so happy, like I have been gone for weeks.
Since it is such a short time I will be working, it helps to know it won't be for long. With my feet being so sore all the time, I have to know that its not forever, or even for two months.
With all this whining I have to say, I am grateful to have a job right now and to help out with buying things I need and the house needs and maybe even a few extras. There are some things I need for my car and I can pay for it now. That's the point of working after all.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Films
Seeing every new movie is not something I try to do. There are a lot of really bad films that get made.
In a change of pace I saw a film over the weekend at the movie house. It was a cute film, but what struck me was that is was a depression era film. For the film buffs out there you will know what I mean. It was like a Judy Garland film where they are going to lose the lease to the theater and they all pull together and at the 11th hour some one steppes in with the money and saves the day. Either that or they put on a performance and a hold a back sale.
This film also keeps the dream of leaving a small town for the bright lights and big city, for fame and money. Wow I didn't think we needed a new generation to be trained like that. In the 30's a lot of girls that were fresh of the farm didn't have good hygiene. The wardrobe department ladies had to teach them to bathe more and clean up, quite literally. It was not fun for them and many of these girls were more than extras.
What are we being told? Move to Hollywood and all your dreams will come true? Really? Did we all forget the casting couch? Its amazing they are using this formula. Then again another film that won wide acclaim re-enforced the idea that rich white women (or men) are the only ones that can help poor blacks or other minorities.
That one is scary since other ethnic groups have long ago learned to take care of themselves. There are more and more agencies set up for this type of thing, not to mention the ethnic groups other than white are no longer a minority. For some reason only a rich white woman can save the day. Again, really??
Take these films as you will, I think I will read a good book.
In a change of pace I saw a film over the weekend at the movie house. It was a cute film, but what struck me was that is was a depression era film. For the film buffs out there you will know what I mean. It was like a Judy Garland film where they are going to lose the lease to the theater and they all pull together and at the 11th hour some one steppes in with the money and saves the day. Either that or they put on a performance and a hold a back sale.
This film also keeps the dream of leaving a small town for the bright lights and big city, for fame and money. Wow I didn't think we needed a new generation to be trained like that. In the 30's a lot of girls that were fresh of the farm didn't have good hygiene. The wardrobe department ladies had to teach them to bathe more and clean up, quite literally. It was not fun for them and many of these girls were more than extras.
What are we being told? Move to Hollywood and all your dreams will come true? Really? Did we all forget the casting couch? Its amazing they are using this formula. Then again another film that won wide acclaim re-enforced the idea that rich white women (or men) are the only ones that can help poor blacks or other minorities.
That one is scary since other ethnic groups have long ago learned to take care of themselves. There are more and more agencies set up for this type of thing, not to mention the ethnic groups other than white are no longer a minority. For some reason only a rich white woman can save the day. Again, really??
Take these films as you will, I think I will read a good book.
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Thanks
This last year has not been that great for me, and while I am doing better at the end of the year and not at the start, there are things to be grateful for.
Do we really need a holiday to make us think about this? Even when I was not feeling great, I would stop and list the things I still could be thankful for. One has been that I still have a roof over my head. Not everyone has that, in fact and L.A. Mission was handing out tarps to the homeless this week.
My chickens and the eggs they give me also make me happy. I am amazed at the chickens, they have personalities and likes and dislikes. I would never have guessed with such a little brain. They make me happy and having to check them everyday has given me a routine I needed. We have a few more now and they are getting bigger each day.
I still have a lot of the same goals as I have had in the past. I am glad I still have good health to keep working towards them. My friends have also been a comfort during trying times.
The summer brought the Farmers Market and beer garden, since I wasn't working I could get the same good spot every Thursday at 4pm. So much so that the other regulars waited for me and even kept an eye out if I was running late.
Some of the time this year I have been too blue and didn't write a blog, since all was going to do was whine and moan about, whatever. That would not be that much fun to read. While it is great if you love your family and want to spend time with them, have a great time. As for me, I am grateful for the fact that my man doesn't watch Football of any kind and today we can watch movies and eat and relax.
Do we really need a holiday to make us think about this? Even when I was not feeling great, I would stop and list the things I still could be thankful for. One has been that I still have a roof over my head. Not everyone has that, in fact and L.A. Mission was handing out tarps to the homeless this week.
My chickens and the eggs they give me also make me happy. I am amazed at the chickens, they have personalities and likes and dislikes. I would never have guessed with such a little brain. They make me happy and having to check them everyday has given me a routine I needed. We have a few more now and they are getting bigger each day.
I still have a lot of the same goals as I have had in the past. I am glad I still have good health to keep working towards them. My friends have also been a comfort during trying times.
The summer brought the Farmers Market and beer garden, since I wasn't working I could get the same good spot every Thursday at 4pm. So much so that the other regulars waited for me and even kept an eye out if I was running late.
Some of the time this year I have been too blue and didn't write a blog, since all was going to do was whine and moan about, whatever. That would not be that much fun to read. While it is great if you love your family and want to spend time with them, have a great time. As for me, I am grateful for the fact that my man doesn't watch Football of any kind and today we can watch movies and eat and relax.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Years End
As the calender marks the up coming end of 2010 I am going to look back at my favorite things.
This year started out horrible with the close of the shop I worked at. Some customers understood and others were so irate. It was not fun and it took me months to get over the deep depression I felt. The thing that started to pull me out of it was getting out and walking my dogs more regularly. It may seem too simple but it really did help. Having pets and a regular routine helped me not to feel useless.
Keeping up with my dogs and chickens helped. Cooking new dishes at home and not asking to go out so much also helped to ease the tension around the house. If I didn't have good cooking skills and always wanted to eat at restaurants we would not have had the money to pay bills.
Also getting rid of some things on eBay helped me to have some spending cash. For pocket money it was taking in the recycling that did the trick. Thanks to that I was able to reward myself with a trip to Starbucks now and then.
Going to warehouse sales and saving some of the t-shirts helped. Last June I bought a lot of new t-shirts. I spilt them in two piles. One to wear right away and feel good about it, the other saved for BBQ invites and other events. That way I could have something new to wear each time. As if I always had new things.
We did have a few cheep and smaller trips this year. I would have loved to go to Europe again and visit my friends. I miss them so much. Instead we went to Vegas twice. Once for the Via Las Vegas car show and the other on a free two night stay we got for listening to a time share pitch. It was not easy and they tried to get out of giving it to us. We were able to see a show and had a two hour massage at a great spa.
The next highlight of the year was going to the grand re-opening of the Dior store at South Coast Plaza. I had been talking to one of the sales people a month or so before and he said he would send us an invite. I was still shocked that I got a nice thick paper invite to the opening. It was great and they served my favorite champagne. I met Eva Mendes and Mr. Segerstrom, the owner of South Coast Plaza. It was so much fun and I didn't have to spend a dime.
Then there was a short trip to see friends up North. That was a nice relaxing weekend and we brought up home made goodies. It was hot when we came back but nice to get out of the city for a while.
Of course I loved seeing the wolves howl. Highlight of my year! The Big Bear tiny zoo is well worth checking out.
Why am I doing a year end piece in the middle of November? I won't have too much time coming up. I finally have a job offer for part-time work.
The rewards for all my penny pinching? I was able to buy some nice things at the outlets coming home from Vegas. There was the corset sale in the summer and the vintage clothing sales. I have not suffered and have bought new things, always on a discount. Not to bad for a year with out work and staying home night after night eating my home made foods. I still have some jam I made over the summer. All of this is lessons from my grand mother, who went through the 1st depression.
This year started out horrible with the close of the shop I worked at. Some customers understood and others were so irate. It was not fun and it took me months to get over the deep depression I felt. The thing that started to pull me out of it was getting out and walking my dogs more regularly. It may seem too simple but it really did help. Having pets and a regular routine helped me not to feel useless.
Keeping up with my dogs and chickens helped. Cooking new dishes at home and not asking to go out so much also helped to ease the tension around the house. If I didn't have good cooking skills and always wanted to eat at restaurants we would not have had the money to pay bills.
Also getting rid of some things on eBay helped me to have some spending cash. For pocket money it was taking in the recycling that did the trick. Thanks to that I was able to reward myself with a trip to Starbucks now and then.
Going to warehouse sales and saving some of the t-shirts helped. Last June I bought a lot of new t-shirts. I spilt them in two piles. One to wear right away and feel good about it, the other saved for BBQ invites and other events. That way I could have something new to wear each time. As if I always had new things.
We did have a few cheep and smaller trips this year. I would have loved to go to Europe again and visit my friends. I miss them so much. Instead we went to Vegas twice. Once for the Via Las Vegas car show and the other on a free two night stay we got for listening to a time share pitch. It was not easy and they tried to get out of giving it to us. We were able to see a show and had a two hour massage at a great spa.
The next highlight of the year was going to the grand re-opening of the Dior store at South Coast Plaza. I had been talking to one of the sales people a month or so before and he said he would send us an invite. I was still shocked that I got a nice thick paper invite to the opening. It was great and they served my favorite champagne. I met Eva Mendes and Mr. Segerstrom, the owner of South Coast Plaza. It was so much fun and I didn't have to spend a dime.
Then there was a short trip to see friends up North. That was a nice relaxing weekend and we brought up home made goodies. It was hot when we came back but nice to get out of the city for a while.
Of course I loved seeing the wolves howl. Highlight of my year! The Big Bear tiny zoo is well worth checking out.
Why am I doing a year end piece in the middle of November? I won't have too much time coming up. I finally have a job offer for part-time work.
The rewards for all my penny pinching? I was able to buy some nice things at the outlets coming home from Vegas. There was the corset sale in the summer and the vintage clothing sales. I have not suffered and have bought new things, always on a discount. Not to bad for a year with out work and staying home night after night eating my home made foods. I still have some jam I made over the summer. All of this is lessons from my grand mother, who went through the 1st depression.
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Date Night
While I worked at my old job I used to make up lists of goals for myself. Some were travel goals, some were life time goals. On that list was 'go to a national park and howl with the wolves'. I had seen a spot on this on PBS years ago and planned to do it some time before I die.
Last Saturday on "Date Night", I was able to cross that off my 'Life's To Do List'. the original story i saw on PBS was of a park in Canada were in the summer the park rangers took a group into the woods and got the wolves to howl. Imagine my surprise and delight to find that a small zoo in big bear does a similar event on Saturday nights during the month of October. Not as far as going to Canada.
The small zoo is right across from Bear Mountain and open to the public. It houses three grown bears, some coyotes and a great big snow leopard. It was so great to see them live, not on TV and so close. They will be moving in a year or so, right now they are up close, I'm not sure it will be the same when they relocate. There were also birds of pray, with dead mice in their area so they could eat them. There was two maimed Bawled Eagles, and one wing or not, it was still great to see one that close, he is still pretty.
It was very cold and I had on a coat as well as a hat and a thick sweater, it was only an hour tour and that's about all I could take in the cold. There was two groups of about 25 of us taking the tour It was nice and yes we got to get close to the wolves, they were white and so great. I wanted to go up and hug them like I do my dogs. Of course I can't, oh well. They had been howling before, and we got them going. That great haunting sound, that starts out high, then deep and low then high again. It was so wonderful to see them and hear them, it was so cold that I could see the breath of the wolf as he howled into the night air.
If it hadn't been so cold and if I wasn't already getting sick, I would have loved to stay for hours just listening to them howl. Before I knew it, it was time to go. I have to come back in the snow and see them play in it, and yes get them to howl some more.
One of the more original date nights I have ever worked up. It really made my month. Yes I get to check off an other thing on my "life's to-do list" and it makes me so happy. I'm not ill with cancer or anything life threatening, I would not want to wait until then to work on this list. I want to do things that I love while I have the energy to do them and enjoy them. So what is on your list and what are you doing to get it done?
Last Saturday on "Date Night", I was able to cross that off my 'Life's To Do List'. the original story i saw on PBS was of a park in Canada were in the summer the park rangers took a group into the woods and got the wolves to howl. Imagine my surprise and delight to find that a small zoo in big bear does a similar event on Saturday nights during the month of October. Not as far as going to Canada.
The small zoo is right across from Bear Mountain and open to the public. It houses three grown bears, some coyotes and a great big snow leopard. It was so great to see them live, not on TV and so close. They will be moving in a year or so, right now they are up close, I'm not sure it will be the same when they relocate. There were also birds of pray, with dead mice in their area so they could eat them. There was two maimed Bawled Eagles, and one wing or not, it was still great to see one that close, he is still pretty.
It was very cold and I had on a coat as well as a hat and a thick sweater, it was only an hour tour and that's about all I could take in the cold. There was two groups of about 25 of us taking the tour It was nice and yes we got to get close to the wolves, they were white and so great. I wanted to go up and hug them like I do my dogs. Of course I can't, oh well. They had been howling before, and we got them going. That great haunting sound, that starts out high, then deep and low then high again. It was so wonderful to see them and hear them, it was so cold that I could see the breath of the wolf as he howled into the night air.
If it hadn't been so cold and if I wasn't already getting sick, I would have loved to stay for hours just listening to them howl. Before I knew it, it was time to go. I have to come back in the snow and see them play in it, and yes get them to howl some more.
One of the more original date nights I have ever worked up. It really made my month. Yes I get to check off an other thing on my "life's to-do list" and it makes me so happy. I'm not ill with cancer or anything life threatening, I would not want to wait until then to work on this list. I want to do things that I love while I have the energy to do them and enjoy them. So what is on your list and what are you doing to get it done?
Friday, October 22, 2010
Rainy days
Yes its that time of year and I couldn't be happier. Sure summer is gone, just as winter will pass.
It wasn't that hot of a summer this year. There were some days that were really hot. We had record breaking heat and then rain. Go figure. Not that I am complaining. I am just happy to be alive and experience it all.
For now I am happy for cook up a storm and make my favorite soups and cornbread. I am looking forward to baking some pies and other things in the oven. I am happy to wear a sweater and can't wait for it to be cold enough to wear a coat.
I have bought some new tights at TJMAXX and have been about to wear them. A friend asked me where I get my thigh highs the other day. We are not that close and I don't want to give out all my tips for shopping. Sometimes people need to do their own leg work. Plus I don't think she would like to drive around as much as I do.
All the good fabrics are hot ones, and that is why most of the time SoCal people dress in t-shirts and jeans. Its doesn't get cold enough for a wool suit, or long over coat, things that are more dressy. The American Natives that lived in Malibu area wore nothing but a thong and sandals most of the year, only putting on a rain poncho during winter.
Rainy days make me happy, I don't have to water the lawn or wash the car, it all gets done for me. My dogs are not happy and they need a walk, they get bored. For now its staying in and eating my home made meals.
It wasn't that hot of a summer this year. There were some days that were really hot. We had record breaking heat and then rain. Go figure. Not that I am complaining. I am just happy to be alive and experience it all.
For now I am happy for cook up a storm and make my favorite soups and cornbread. I am looking forward to baking some pies and other things in the oven. I am happy to wear a sweater and can't wait for it to be cold enough to wear a coat.
I have bought some new tights at TJMAXX and have been about to wear them. A friend asked me where I get my thigh highs the other day. We are not that close and I don't want to give out all my tips for shopping. Sometimes people need to do their own leg work. Plus I don't think she would like to drive around as much as I do.
All the good fabrics are hot ones, and that is why most of the time SoCal people dress in t-shirts and jeans. Its doesn't get cold enough for a wool suit, or long over coat, things that are more dressy. The American Natives that lived in Malibu area wore nothing but a thong and sandals most of the year, only putting on a rain poncho during winter.
Rainy days make me happy, I don't have to water the lawn or wash the car, it all gets done for me. My dogs are not happy and they need a walk, they get bored. For now its staying in and eating my home made meals.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Back Again
As some of you may know my website has been down for over a month and it just went back on-line this week.
In the weeks it was down, lots has been going on. I took a short trip up north and had a nice visit with old friends. It was much needed. The gifts we took up to our friends were all home made. Home made food, salsa and a trivet. My man brought home made beer as well.
It felt good to take up things we had made ourselves rather than something that was bought at the store. We even brought up some eggs from my chickens. Silly as that sounds I was very proud of that.
The other things have been the fact that I still can't seem to get a job. As it is I look younger than I am, but when they see my age they don't want to hire me. I will ask for more pay or not be able to run around as fast as the others? It could be that they just want to hire young kids that they can pay little to nothing and they won't complain. The other thing is, very few are hiring and they have so many applicants.
In the mean time I have printed out my book project and let a few of my friends read it. It felt great after all this time to see it looking like a book! I did my own cover sheet and decorated it the way I wanted too. Which will be the only time I will get that experience. Also the only time I will get nothing but rave reviews. My friends have been very kind.
I have much more to say but that will wait for the next time. The plans so far are to go to the Fashion Expo this weekend and Oktoberfest. Should be good!
In the weeks it was down, lots has been going on. I took a short trip up north and had a nice visit with old friends. It was much needed. The gifts we took up to our friends were all home made. Home made food, salsa and a trivet. My man brought home made beer as well.
It felt good to take up things we had made ourselves rather than something that was bought at the store. We even brought up some eggs from my chickens. Silly as that sounds I was very proud of that.
The other things have been the fact that I still can't seem to get a job. As it is I look younger than I am, but when they see my age they don't want to hire me. I will ask for more pay or not be able to run around as fast as the others? It could be that they just want to hire young kids that they can pay little to nothing and they won't complain. The other thing is, very few are hiring and they have so many applicants.
In the mean time I have printed out my book project and let a few of my friends read it. It felt great after all this time to see it looking like a book! I did my own cover sheet and decorated it the way I wanted too. Which will be the only time I will get that experience. Also the only time I will get nothing but rave reviews. My friends have been very kind.
I have much more to say but that will wait for the next time. The plans so far are to go to the Fashion Expo this weekend and Oktoberfest. Should be good!
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Chores
It never seems like fun to get your chores done. The weekends are supposed to be made for fun.
The thing is, when people work 8-5 on the weekdays the only days to wash the car and paint the house is the weekends. This last weekend was boring and while we got a lot done, sure I would have loved to be window shopping or watching a film in the cool of the cinema.
That is the hard thing about being a grown up. When to stop having fun and get serious about a project at home. That is because we can't always be selfish and just play all the time. We have to let our women go off for a while and do things and we have to let our men take time and work on something for a while.
Its not fun to see my man work on the spa all weekend and hear the nail gun go off. Once its done it will mean I can go back into the spa again and relax. In the mean time its noise and boredom for me. If I don't find a good book to read and leave him alone, it will never get done. Thank goodness for my Ipod and three new novels. I can't help him too much and the heat makes me sick. I have my chores done and I can read to my hearts content.
The thing is, when people work 8-5 on the weekdays the only days to wash the car and paint the house is the weekends. This last weekend was boring and while we got a lot done, sure I would have loved to be window shopping or watching a film in the cool of the cinema.
That is the hard thing about being a grown up. When to stop having fun and get serious about a project at home. That is because we can't always be selfish and just play all the time. We have to let our women go off for a while and do things and we have to let our men take time and work on something for a while.
Its not fun to see my man work on the spa all weekend and hear the nail gun go off. Once its done it will mean I can go back into the spa again and relax. In the mean time its noise and boredom for me. If I don't find a good book to read and leave him alone, it will never get done. Thank goodness for my Ipod and three new novels. I can't help him too much and the heat makes me sick. I have my chores done and I can read to my hearts content.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Cheap Buys
In my attempt to live a nice life even during these hard times I have found a few good buys, yes at the 99 cents store.
For my weekly beauty treatments I tired two new products. The First is from Nu-pore and their collagen essence mask/ fresh aloe masks. They come two in one box. I used the collagen essence mask last night, I could feel the tighten effect. I didn't break out in a rash, but that doesn't mean others might not.
In all it was a good experience and I would buy it again. You can put them in frig to cool them off if you want. Its a cotton face mask soaked in the treatments. I would give it a 8 out of 10, 10 being best. It was much better than I figured it would be.
The next was by Body Zen the foot treatments. I bought the brown sugar/ vanilla foot scrub,it came with bath salts and lotion. The scent was fine, but for my money I think the sugar scrub at Trader Joe's offers more. It wasn't bad, so I will give it a 5 out 10. The slats worked fine and the lotion was nice. I am used to Body Shop, their sales are the best.
Just trying to show that you can still pamper yourself even if you don't have a lot of money. Cheers and here is to more cheap buys!
For my weekly beauty treatments I tired two new products. The First is from Nu-pore and their collagen essence mask/ fresh aloe masks. They come two in one box. I used the collagen essence mask last night, I could feel the tighten effect. I didn't break out in a rash, but that doesn't mean others might not.
In all it was a good experience and I would buy it again. You can put them in frig to cool them off if you want. Its a cotton face mask soaked in the treatments. I would give it a 8 out of 10, 10 being best. It was much better than I figured it would be.
The next was by Body Zen the foot treatments. I bought the brown sugar/ vanilla foot scrub,it came with bath salts and lotion. The scent was fine, but for my money I think the sugar scrub at Trader Joe's offers more. It wasn't bad, so I will give it a 5 out 10. The slats worked fine and the lotion was nice. I am used to Body Shop, their sales are the best.
Just trying to show that you can still pamper yourself even if you don't have a lot of money. Cheers and here is to more cheap buys!
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Relax
In our busy and stressful lives we need to find ways to relax. Faced with work places that are getting more and more hostile we have to decompress.
With a recent visit to the Doctors my man was told that he needs to lower his blood pressure and lose weight. How can this be done? One activity, walk the dogs. Play with your dogs. Yes petting your dog, cat, or bunny lowers your blood pressure. Walking the dogs is good for you and good for them. The whole family comes back happy and relaxed.
Other things, praying and meditating also lower your blood pressure. The deep breathing with both gives you more oxygen to your body and your blood. So stop and take a deep breath and hold it then slowly let go. We need it, this if often done in Pilate's classes.
There is also bike ridding. Sure there is gym membership, I try to talk about things that don't cost a lot of money. Why add stress of another monthly bill?
There is so much out there that makes us stressed. Some stress is good, it helps to keep us on our game. Overstressed is more what I talking about, aren't we all there? The summer is still here and we still have beach days. picnics in the part and BBQ's with friends to help us all relax. Go get some fresh air, take a deep breath and relax!
With a recent visit to the Doctors my man was told that he needs to lower his blood pressure and lose weight. How can this be done? One activity, walk the dogs. Play with your dogs. Yes petting your dog, cat, or bunny lowers your blood pressure. Walking the dogs is good for you and good for them. The whole family comes back happy and relaxed.
Other things, praying and meditating also lower your blood pressure. The deep breathing with both gives you more oxygen to your body and your blood. So stop and take a deep breath and hold it then slowly let go. We need it, this if often done in Pilate's classes.
There is also bike ridding. Sure there is gym membership, I try to talk about things that don't cost a lot of money. Why add stress of another monthly bill?
There is so much out there that makes us stressed. Some stress is good, it helps to keep us on our game. Overstressed is more what I talking about, aren't we all there? The summer is still here and we still have beach days. picnics in the part and BBQ's with friends to help us all relax. Go get some fresh air, take a deep breath and relax!
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Needed
There are things that we need and things that are wants. Sometime the same. We need to be loved and we want to be loved.
There are times when we have to say things that are unpleasant to hear. We need to and sometimes we want to. If we don't, its almost as if we will go mad not too.
Other times we need to eat and we want to eat our own food. Its a great thing and we relish it completely. We need to work, but we don't always enjoy the work we do. We have to resign ourselves to the fact that we need the money.
We need to have good close friends. Some times we need to tell them about our problems. Other times we don't need to let people know what is going on. We really don't need to have tons of friends, just a few close ones.
We like to think we are above it all. We need to learn we are not. We need to tell someone and hopefully if we are really blessed, the one will tell will take us in their arms and comfort us. We need to hear 'It will all be ok, you'll see'. Sure some times it won't. Isn't that what we needed to hear though?
There are times when we have to say things that are unpleasant to hear. We need to and sometimes we want to. If we don't, its almost as if we will go mad not too.
Other times we need to eat and we want to eat our own food. Its a great thing and we relish it completely. We need to work, but we don't always enjoy the work we do. We have to resign ourselves to the fact that we need the money.
We need to have good close friends. Some times we need to tell them about our problems. Other times we don't need to let people know what is going on. We really don't need to have tons of friends, just a few close ones.
We like to think we are above it all. We need to learn we are not. We need to tell someone and hopefully if we are really blessed, the one will tell will take us in their arms and comfort us. We need to hear 'It will all be ok, you'll see'. Sure some times it won't. Isn't that what we needed to hear though?
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Staying In
In the last few years I have offten said that I don't mind staying in, as long as I have something interesting to eat. Sure we all have to cut back, but that doesn't mean I have tons of Mac and Cheese in my cupboard.
This last weekend I made Strawberry Jam and Oven dried tomatoes. The jam I have been using as a filling in crepes. I did break that up with some Nuttella today. We are meeting our friends at the Beer garden today for more food and drink.
The last few weekends we did go out, and went to the Hollywood Forever Cemetery for movie screenings. Everyone brings picnic dinners. We brought along some smoked chicken and Salmon with cream cheese and french bread. We would have had the same if we were at home. It doesn't cost a fortune, just some smart shopping and a little time, to pack it up.
This weekend we will go to the Symphony and an other picnic dinner. I have the sparkling wine already and some red wine, which will go great with chocolate. The Sparkling wine will go well with the chicken panini's. There are lost of free concerts in city's in the summer. Grab some chardonnay and some chicken salad sandwiches and get out there. We have been staying in too long. The rest of the week when I again have to stay in, I will treat myself to home made Chocolate Martinis and crepes with my own jam. Other wise it would be too dull!
This last weekend I made Strawberry Jam and Oven dried tomatoes. The jam I have been using as a filling in crepes. I did break that up with some Nuttella today. We are meeting our friends at the Beer garden today for more food and drink.
The last few weekends we did go out, and went to the Hollywood Forever Cemetery for movie screenings. Everyone brings picnic dinners. We brought along some smoked chicken and Salmon with cream cheese and french bread. We would have had the same if we were at home. It doesn't cost a fortune, just some smart shopping and a little time, to pack it up.
This weekend we will go to the Symphony and an other picnic dinner. I have the sparkling wine already and some red wine, which will go great with chocolate. The Sparkling wine will go well with the chicken panini's. There are lost of free concerts in city's in the summer. Grab some chardonnay and some chicken salad sandwiches and get out there. We have been staying in too long. The rest of the week when I again have to stay in, I will treat myself to home made Chocolate Martinis and crepes with my own jam. Other wise it would be too dull!
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Fair
As kids we used to whine, "that's not fair!". It could have been some one was cheating in a sport or game. It could have been the fact that our parents didn't have the money to take us out for ice cream.
As we got older we had to swallow our pride and admit 'life is not fair'. Its a bitter pill to swallow and it is never easy. Okay maybe at the end of the week at the end of the bar with drink in hand, it can go down easier.
One thing I have never found fair is women that let the passion out of their married life. Sure its an effort to put on something lacy and when both people work it can be hard to find the time. Its there something great about being desired? That some one wants you? Has to have you? Of course!
So why be ridged? Why keep that away from your man, and in effect away from yourself? If we want our men to stay faithful we have to give them a reason. So take that long hot bath, get nice and smooth and fresh smelling for him, why not?
There is tons of advertising out there, with cute touched up photos of women ready to sell sex for anything. Soap. Remember people it's just soap. Or car tires or whatever. Again its not fair, not all of us are blessed with 'Model' looks. But remember ladies, your man picked you. You are still worthy of his attention.
So get some nice lotion,yes you can even find bath salts at the 99cent store. Smell nice and fresh and get it on with your man. Fair is fair, right?
As we got older we had to swallow our pride and admit 'life is not fair'. Its a bitter pill to swallow and it is never easy. Okay maybe at the end of the week at the end of the bar with drink in hand, it can go down easier.
One thing I have never found fair is women that let the passion out of their married life. Sure its an effort to put on something lacy and when both people work it can be hard to find the time. Its there something great about being desired? That some one wants you? Has to have you? Of course!
So why be ridged? Why keep that away from your man, and in effect away from yourself? If we want our men to stay faithful we have to give them a reason. So take that long hot bath, get nice and smooth and fresh smelling for him, why not?
There is tons of advertising out there, with cute touched up photos of women ready to sell sex for anything. Soap. Remember people it's just soap. Or car tires or whatever. Again its not fair, not all of us are blessed with 'Model' looks. But remember ladies, your man picked you. You are still worthy of his attention.
So get some nice lotion,yes you can even find bath salts at the 99cent store. Smell nice and fresh and get it on with your man. Fair is fair, right?
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Grace
There are times when we have to set aside vanity and go out with out makeup and jewelry. There are only a few times, when we go to the beach and when we have to go to the hospital.
The later is what I am talking about now. How can a visit there be done with Grace? First off, prep ahead of time. Take a night to do a facial and waxing before hand. Next take off your nail polish and make sure your nails are filed neatly.
Do what you are told. When the nurse tells you no liquor and no liquids after 12.30 pm the night before, do it. In fact stop at 10.30 instead, and no cheating. This is not the time to exercise your free will and do as you please. They also cover no illegal drugs, again all these rules are for your safety.
The interview was unusual. I have never had them ask me so many personal questions. Am I in an abusive house. I guess they wouldn't let me go home to that? I never knew they asked things like that. No on mentions that on TV.
What to do in those endless array of waiting rooms? Bring a book or grab a magazine. I found a great article on Panama hats in the Forbes lifestyle magazine. I also brought along a novel I have been reading. A good thing to bring, your Ipod. Put on some soothing music. Maybe not hard rock, something relaxing instead.
For an operation, they tell you to leave your valuables at home. Have a friend or relative handy to take care of your things while you are under. Also have them hold things you will need. I made sure to bring my softest, fluffiest slippers to go home in. Extra pillows in the car were already on stand by for me.
Let go! Yes we can be control freaks. I am used to being the one that helps everyone. It can be hard to be on the other side. I had to take a moment and think about what was scaring me. For me, my first memory of my life is being alone in the hospital when I have pneumonia. I almost died. My fear was based on my younger life. Then I thought about now, I am in the hands of trained professionals. They have all gone to schools and learned how to do their jobs, they wouldn't be here if they didn't know what to do. Let them do their job, listen to instructions and just let go.
Get to know who is working with you. I had a really nice nurse who was concerned about my blood sugar levels and did some research for me while I was under. She was very effectuate. The nurse in surgery was nice as was the handsome anesthesiologist. I made jokes with them before going under, it helps.
Afterwards, speak up. I was cold and in pain when I came to, in the recovery room. I didn't yell, but called out in a mild tone. "Nurse,Nurse!My pain is at 10." She a very considerate person, took care of me and helped me get some pain killers and breathe and did what she was trained to do. It was a real comfort and the pain went away. I had some juice and water before leaving. I also thanked all the nurses for their care and attention to detail.
Home. Don't think you are tuffer than you are. Relax, this is not time to clean the house or cook meals. If you are that controlling, you will have made meals ahead of time labeled with the days of the week for some one to microwave. I have spent the last few days, in bed watching my favorite films and shows on DVD. I need to take a shower and I have only lifted my spoon or fork. Nothing else. All the water, broth and jello diet, along with all the pain killer induced naps have made my skin look great. Bed rest, is just that. While I feel better today and will leave the house, I am not going to walk the dogs for two miles. There is no need to rush things. This weekend will be low key as well.
With a little planing ahead of time. I cleaned out the guest room, since I would be using it. And some trips to the store, my man has done all of those. For extra food and broth. Keep you head up and you can have a visit that will help you and you can still do this with a little grace.
The later is what I am talking about now. How can a visit there be done with Grace? First off, prep ahead of time. Take a night to do a facial and waxing before hand. Next take off your nail polish and make sure your nails are filed neatly.
Do what you are told. When the nurse tells you no liquor and no liquids after 12.30 pm the night before, do it. In fact stop at 10.30 instead, and no cheating. This is not the time to exercise your free will and do as you please. They also cover no illegal drugs, again all these rules are for your safety.
The interview was unusual. I have never had them ask me so many personal questions. Am I in an abusive house. I guess they wouldn't let me go home to that? I never knew they asked things like that. No on mentions that on TV.
What to do in those endless array of waiting rooms? Bring a book or grab a magazine. I found a great article on Panama hats in the Forbes lifestyle magazine. I also brought along a novel I have been reading. A good thing to bring, your Ipod. Put on some soothing music. Maybe not hard rock, something relaxing instead.
For an operation, they tell you to leave your valuables at home. Have a friend or relative handy to take care of your things while you are under. Also have them hold things you will need. I made sure to bring my softest, fluffiest slippers to go home in. Extra pillows in the car were already on stand by for me.
Let go! Yes we can be control freaks. I am used to being the one that helps everyone. It can be hard to be on the other side. I had to take a moment and think about what was scaring me. For me, my first memory of my life is being alone in the hospital when I have pneumonia. I almost died. My fear was based on my younger life. Then I thought about now, I am in the hands of trained professionals. They have all gone to schools and learned how to do their jobs, they wouldn't be here if they didn't know what to do. Let them do their job, listen to instructions and just let go.
Get to know who is working with you. I had a really nice nurse who was concerned about my blood sugar levels and did some research for me while I was under. She was very effectuate. The nurse in surgery was nice as was the handsome anesthesiologist. I made jokes with them before going under, it helps.
Afterwards, speak up. I was cold and in pain when I came to, in the recovery room. I didn't yell, but called out in a mild tone. "Nurse,Nurse!My pain is at 10." She a very considerate person, took care of me and helped me get some pain killers and breathe and did what she was trained to do. It was a real comfort and the pain went away. I had some juice and water before leaving. I also thanked all the nurses for their care and attention to detail.
Home. Don't think you are tuffer than you are. Relax, this is not time to clean the house or cook meals. If you are that controlling, you will have made meals ahead of time labeled with the days of the week for some one to microwave. I have spent the last few days, in bed watching my favorite films and shows on DVD. I need to take a shower and I have only lifted my spoon or fork. Nothing else. All the water, broth and jello diet, along with all the pain killer induced naps have made my skin look great. Bed rest, is just that. While I feel better today and will leave the house, I am not going to walk the dogs for two miles. There is no need to rush things. This weekend will be low key as well.
With a little planing ahead of time. I cleaned out the guest room, since I would be using it. And some trips to the store, my man has done all of those. For extra food and broth. Keep you head up and you can have a visit that will help you and you can still do this with a little grace.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Water
These days the saying "water, water everywhere and not a drop to drink" comes to mind when I think of sales.
In the last few weeks I have been to, 2 warehouse sales. I have been to these before and other years there were lines around the block to get in on the good deals. They have been good deals this whole time and this year was no exception. What was the exception, no on was there to buy things.
Okay, not no one, hardly anyone. I was able to walk right in and there were no long lines.I was able to pick out the things I wanted and hardly any check out lines at all. Earlier this year I mentioned that it would be a shame and a real acid test if no one was able to take advantage of these deals. Yes, sadly hardly anyone could even shop at blow out, discounted prices. It really shows how bad things are.
Its as if we are in the ocean and can't drink the water. We don't even have the money to buy things we need. I did get some new things and I fear that we are not at the worst of it. I have a very real feeling it will be true, I wont be able to buy anything more this year. With the things I did get, I made two piles. One I will use now so I can feel good about myself and the other I will keep for later. Then if I have a picnic or BBQ to go to later in the year I can break out a new top. That way I can feel like a just got something new.
I did this last year with a pair of Prada shoes I bought. They were white satin and it was fall. So I tucked them away for this spring and used them on a special night. I had a feeling I wasn't' going to get a new outfit for that night and I was right. Instead I did have the brand new shoes to wear, and that felt good.
The other things I hold on to, I buy up a few cheap hand fans and keep them. They only cost a few dollars in China Town. I usually get 4 at a time, they don't last the test of time. That and a few parasols and I am done for the summer. For colder weather I stock up on vintage clothes and coats. I have spent at the most 35.00 on my winter coat, but its cashmere and keeps me toasty warm.
Only time will tell when people have the money to spend again. For now keep your money and only get the things you need. Wants are not allowed right now. Okay maybe a few. As long as they don't cost too much.
In the last few weeks I have been to, 2 warehouse sales. I have been to these before and other years there were lines around the block to get in on the good deals. They have been good deals this whole time and this year was no exception. What was the exception, no on was there to buy things.
Okay, not no one, hardly anyone. I was able to walk right in and there were no long lines.I was able to pick out the things I wanted and hardly any check out lines at all. Earlier this year I mentioned that it would be a shame and a real acid test if no one was able to take advantage of these deals. Yes, sadly hardly anyone could even shop at blow out, discounted prices. It really shows how bad things are.
Its as if we are in the ocean and can't drink the water. We don't even have the money to buy things we need. I did get some new things and I fear that we are not at the worst of it. I have a very real feeling it will be true, I wont be able to buy anything more this year. With the things I did get, I made two piles. One I will use now so I can feel good about myself and the other I will keep for later. Then if I have a picnic or BBQ to go to later in the year I can break out a new top. That way I can feel like a just got something new.
I did this last year with a pair of Prada shoes I bought. They were white satin and it was fall. So I tucked them away for this spring and used them on a special night. I had a feeling I wasn't' going to get a new outfit for that night and I was right. Instead I did have the brand new shoes to wear, and that felt good.
The other things I hold on to, I buy up a few cheap hand fans and keep them. They only cost a few dollars in China Town. I usually get 4 at a time, they don't last the test of time. That and a few parasols and I am done for the summer. For colder weather I stock up on vintage clothes and coats. I have spent at the most 35.00 on my winter coat, but its cashmere and keeps me toasty warm.
Only time will tell when people have the money to spend again. For now keep your money and only get the things you need. Wants are not allowed right now. Okay maybe a few. As long as they don't cost too much.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Exhibt 2
This last week my man and I went to see the "Secerts of the Silk road" exhibit at the Bowers museum. This will be on till mid July.
It was so great to see these thousand year old pieces of silk that have still survived. It was also interesting to note that the girls that made these started learning their craft at 6 years of age. The final exam being the making of their own one of a kind out fit. Some of these taking years. All in the effort to catch a husband. The age they were married off at was about 16. That means at age 14 they started making these garments. At a festival, when other family's with boys that could be suitors were around is when they displayed them. They would be judged on style, complexity, and the use of different types of embroidery work. The way they used all their skills was a testament to their over all craftsmanship and made them desirable as wives.
It made me think about 10 years. If you devote 10 years to something, how good of a craftsman should you be? What have I done over the last 10 years? I have been cooking well since I was 15, and I did that so I would be a good wife. I still enjoy cooking, I could use more recipes in my routine. What about the next 10 years. I want to keep up my writing, how much better will it be in 10 years? It seems like such a long time when you are young. 10 years goes by fast.
It was so great to see these thousand year old pieces of silk that have still survived. It was also interesting to note that the girls that made these started learning their craft at 6 years of age. The final exam being the making of their own one of a kind out fit. Some of these taking years. All in the effort to catch a husband. The age they were married off at was about 16. That means at age 14 they started making these garments. At a festival, when other family's with boys that could be suitors were around is when they displayed them. They would be judged on style, complexity, and the use of different types of embroidery work. The way they used all their skills was a testament to their over all craftsmanship and made them desirable as wives.
It made me think about 10 years. If you devote 10 years to something, how good of a craftsman should you be? What have I done over the last 10 years? I have been cooking well since I was 15, and I did that so I would be a good wife. I still enjoy cooking, I could use more recipes in my routine. What about the next 10 years. I want to keep up my writing, how much better will it be in 10 years? It seems like such a long time when you are young. 10 years goes by fast.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Mid week
One of the nice things about being unemployed is the time to do things in the mid week with out others around you.
I love going to the movie house on a Monday when they first open and there are not any screaming kids to deal with. You can really enjoy the film that way.
Yesterday, which was a Wednesday I went to Santa Ana to see Laurie Lipton's exhibit at the Grand Central Station Gallery. Having seen the write up about it on OC Weekly, it seemed like fun. It was and there is something so soothing about looking at art, away. Then I went to my fave Mexican restaurant to top it off. She has more patience than I even have to do all those details in pencil and charcoal. Perfect afternoon!
Next week I plan to go to the Bowers museum and see the "Secrets of the Silk Road" installation. Again another treat when not that many are around. The last time I was there was for the Terracotta Warriors exhibit, which was fabulous. I may take a trip to the Getty Center. I feel like I owe it to myself to make the most of this time that is been given to me. Ok not given, just no one is hiring right now. Might as well talk in some culture since its there. Especially Mid week.
I love going to the movie house on a Monday when they first open and there are not any screaming kids to deal with. You can really enjoy the film that way.
Yesterday, which was a Wednesday I went to Santa Ana to see Laurie Lipton's exhibit at the Grand Central Station Gallery. Having seen the write up about it on OC Weekly, it seemed like fun. It was and there is something so soothing about looking at art, away. Then I went to my fave Mexican restaurant to top it off. She has more patience than I even have to do all those details in pencil and charcoal. Perfect afternoon!
Next week I plan to go to the Bowers museum and see the "Secrets of the Silk Road" installation. Again another treat when not that many are around. The last time I was there was for the Terracotta Warriors exhibit, which was fabulous. I may take a trip to the Getty Center. I feel like I owe it to myself to make the most of this time that is been given to me. Ok not given, just no one is hiring right now. Might as well talk in some culture since its there. Especially Mid week.
Friday, May 14, 2010
Fear
It has been said "we have nothing to Fear but Fear itself" True, in a way. The fear of success or of failure can cripple people.
Fear can paralyze and make people give into inaction. I have a friend that was trapped in her mothers home, now she is married and making herself the same prison. She is so used to being home she just stays there. While it was horrid to be at home with her tyrant mother, she is so used to hiding from the world. Now its her comfort zone. It know she is depressed from all those years of being stuck at home, and I hope she can one day get out and live her life for herself, and her husband.
We all have some kind of fear, some of crowds. What ever it is, we need help of our friends. Some of course may need more help than that, I'm not here to point fingers or give medical advice.
We can all use a hand every once in a while. If we tell our loved ones what is scaring us and if they will help. If they do not, we need to keep looking. Even when some one is doing well, that can be hard as well. Be there for your loved ones when they need some one to talk to. Other wise what good are you. For my friend mentioned earlier, I will have her to dinner and later do a heart to heart with her.
I go to my friends when I am going to do something new and I am scared to take the leap. Usually it takes some kind words and encouragement to get me going. Then I can put aside the fear for the joys of powering through and finding out I can do this after all.
Fear can paralyze and make people give into inaction. I have a friend that was trapped in her mothers home, now she is married and making herself the same prison. She is so used to being home she just stays there. While it was horrid to be at home with her tyrant mother, she is so used to hiding from the world. Now its her comfort zone. It know she is depressed from all those years of being stuck at home, and I hope she can one day get out and live her life for herself, and her husband.
We all have some kind of fear, some of crowds. What ever it is, we need help of our friends. Some of course may need more help than that, I'm not here to point fingers or give medical advice.
We can all use a hand every once in a while. If we tell our loved ones what is scaring us and if they will help. If they do not, we need to keep looking. Even when some one is doing well, that can be hard as well. Be there for your loved ones when they need some one to talk to. Other wise what good are you. For my friend mentioned earlier, I will have her to dinner and later do a heart to heart with her.
I go to my friends when I am going to do something new and I am scared to take the leap. Usually it takes some kind words and encouragement to get me going. Then I can put aside the fear for the joys of powering through and finding out I can do this after all.
Friday, May 7, 2010
Away
There is still something romantic about getting in your car and going away for the weekend or more. We all need to get away every once in a while.
The reality is that we don't always have the money to travel. We haven't and after enduring a boring lecture about time share's we were able to get a two nights stay in Vegas. It was not easy, it was if the company didn't want to really give you anything for free. We had to badger them to make good on the offer.
The reason for us being so persistent? We really would not have the funds to travel other wise. After all we have been through in the last year, we really needed to just get out of town and relax. I still don't have a job and I need one. We were able to do some outlet shopping and that is the last time I will be able to in a while.
In the times when I really can't get away, I can always go the beach. That might not be available to everyone. There is the mountains as well. Still no gas money to travel? Then get an adventure book and take a trip in your mind. It still can be refreshing. In these difficult times we can't always get away, at least not like we used to. I have many friends in Europe I have not seen in years and I would love to. Some might come to visit us and that would be nice. If not, we can always email.
The reality is that we don't always have the money to travel. We haven't and after enduring a boring lecture about time share's we were able to get a two nights stay in Vegas. It was not easy, it was if the company didn't want to really give you anything for free. We had to badger them to make good on the offer.
The reason for us being so persistent? We really would not have the funds to travel other wise. After all we have been through in the last year, we really needed to just get out of town and relax. I still don't have a job and I need one. We were able to do some outlet shopping and that is the last time I will be able to in a while.
In the times when I really can't get away, I can always go the beach. That might not be available to everyone. There is the mountains as well. Still no gas money to travel? Then get an adventure book and take a trip in your mind. It still can be refreshing. In these difficult times we can't always get away, at least not like we used to. I have many friends in Europe I have not seen in years and I would love to. Some might come to visit us and that would be nice. If not, we can always email.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Age and time
With age and time we are supposed to acquire wisdom. Some of us do and others do not. Sometimes its a matter of how much drug use was involved in the younger years. I don't say that for myself, but for others. I have seen family members take an extra 10 years to figure things out.
The things I have learned at this age and with two failed attempts at business, is never to do business with friends. I hate that I have learned that. Not that it isn't true, it is all the expense and time and loss that has happened. It also hurts that now I am so protective of my pocket book. I have always been a generous person, to the extent that I could be. I would have loved to do more. Now with all the losses I have nothing much to give. If I have some food I will share it. I don't want my friends to go hungry.
What is so sad about all this, is that I was perfectly able to say no to my family. I have not talked with my mother for the better part of 10 years and that suits me just fine. If I had been close with her, I would have been guilt tripped in to paying for her life, not mine. I would be in worse shape than I am now.
However I was happy to help two friends and both times it turned our badly. We did not make a profit and it was a waste of time and money. Yes, I feel stupid about it all and while I have learned my lesson it was at a great cost. Some people are just takers and some are givers. My mother is a taker and that's why I'm not around her. These others are takers as well.
I don't want to be bitter and only look out for myself. I just have to be careful and resolve never to enter into business with friends. It has made me more on the alert, and I suppose that is a good thing. I suppose I didn't think my friends would be worse then my family. It has caused me great pain and sleepless nights and I'm glad most of that is behind me. My house could use a lot of work, but we don't have the money to fix it. So for now I am working hard at getting a job. I have to rely on myself and not friends. If I want things, I will have to work for them. It would be nice to see justice and to get some of what was lost, recovered. But at my age and given the time I have waited. Wisdom tells me, "Don't hold your breath!"
The things I have learned at this age and with two failed attempts at business, is never to do business with friends. I hate that I have learned that. Not that it isn't true, it is all the expense and time and loss that has happened. It also hurts that now I am so protective of my pocket book. I have always been a generous person, to the extent that I could be. I would have loved to do more. Now with all the losses I have nothing much to give. If I have some food I will share it. I don't want my friends to go hungry.
What is so sad about all this, is that I was perfectly able to say no to my family. I have not talked with my mother for the better part of 10 years and that suits me just fine. If I had been close with her, I would have been guilt tripped in to paying for her life, not mine. I would be in worse shape than I am now.
However I was happy to help two friends and both times it turned our badly. We did not make a profit and it was a waste of time and money. Yes, I feel stupid about it all and while I have learned my lesson it was at a great cost. Some people are just takers and some are givers. My mother is a taker and that's why I'm not around her. These others are takers as well.
I don't want to be bitter and only look out for myself. I just have to be careful and resolve never to enter into business with friends. It has made me more on the alert, and I suppose that is a good thing. I suppose I didn't think my friends would be worse then my family. It has caused me great pain and sleepless nights and I'm glad most of that is behind me. My house could use a lot of work, but we don't have the money to fix it. So for now I am working hard at getting a job. I have to rely on myself and not friends. If I want things, I will have to work for them. It would be nice to see justice and to get some of what was lost, recovered. But at my age and given the time I have waited. Wisdom tells me, "Don't hold your breath!"
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Asking
One of the things I have learned from working with men, is their ability to ask for and get what they want.
I have always found that to be pushy, but aren't they? If you watch "The Donald" he seems really pushy. I don't watch his reality TV Show, but I have heard about him enough to see that pushy side to him. Before the TV Show there was the book "The Art of the Deal", by Donald Trump. We
Part of being a "good girl" is not being pushy or demanding. As I get older, I am not worried about being a "good girl" I am more worried about not getting what I want and deserve at this age.
The key to this, is asking for it. Asking for the chance to perform, then following through and doing a good job. I have always done a good job. I have not always drawn people's attention to it. While it may seem simple to a man, this seems to be in direct conflict with how I was raised. It takes a lot for me to stand up and show off and self-promote. If I don't, I know I won't get anywhere. Yes, I have to ask people to read my blog, my 1st chapter of my book and ask if they will come to my performance. Usually the answer is Yes.
I have always found that to be pushy, but aren't they? If you watch "The Donald" he seems really pushy. I don't watch his reality TV Show, but I have heard about him enough to see that pushy side to him. Before the TV Show there was the book "The Art of the Deal", by Donald Trump. We
Part of being a "good girl" is not being pushy or demanding. As I get older, I am not worried about being a "good girl" I am more worried about not getting what I want and deserve at this age.
The key to this, is asking for it. Asking for the chance to perform, then following through and doing a good job. I have always done a good job. I have not always drawn people's attention to it. While it may seem simple to a man, this seems to be in direct conflict with how I was raised. It takes a lot for me to stand up and show off and self-promote. If I don't, I know I won't get anywhere. Yes, I have to ask people to read my blog, my 1st chapter of my book and ask if they will come to my performance. Usually the answer is Yes.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Car show
Last weekend I was able to go to car show in Vegas, not being a gambler I couldn't care less about the casinos. I work too hard for my money to throw it away.
It was nice to see classic cars some of which really had nice body work and others that don't. There were a lot of Rockabilly girls and some in outrageous outfits. As we get older we can also say, while the girls are pretty they just don't need to run around naked like that. Cute is cute and pretty lady-like out fits are always great. And yes trashy will always be trashy. There is no need to show off all that God gave you, in day light with small kids around. Mystery is worth its weight in gold. Make the guys work to see it, why give it away all up front? Yes I had a nice modest outfit on, and I still looked nice.
As for the cars, most were from SoCal. Not that its a surprise, since car culture is a SoCal thing. We have the warm weather to keep our cars looking nice. When you watch things like "American Pickers" you can see that other cars are going to waste in some ones yard, back east. They need to be rescued.
You do have to really look at them, some have really bad body work. Both the cars and the girls. Some are more obvious than others. So choose wisely. As for the girls, it can be helped with regular exercise and a better choice in food. Even in a buffet line there is fresh fruit and veggies. It will help your hair and skin have a nice look to it. Yes, put down the chips and pick up a piece of cantaloupe or red apple. As for the body work on the cars, it needs some welding, and a good paint job, it will be better.
It was nice to see classic cars some of which really had nice body work and others that don't. There were a lot of Rockabilly girls and some in outrageous outfits. As we get older we can also say, while the girls are pretty they just don't need to run around naked like that. Cute is cute and pretty lady-like out fits are always great. And yes trashy will always be trashy. There is no need to show off all that God gave you, in day light with small kids around. Mystery is worth its weight in gold. Make the guys work to see it, why give it away all up front? Yes I had a nice modest outfit on, and I still looked nice.
As for the cars, most were from SoCal. Not that its a surprise, since car culture is a SoCal thing. We have the warm weather to keep our cars looking nice. When you watch things like "American Pickers" you can see that other cars are going to waste in some ones yard, back east. They need to be rescued.
You do have to really look at them, some have really bad body work. Both the cars and the girls. Some are more obvious than others. So choose wisely. As for the girls, it can be helped with regular exercise and a better choice in food. Even in a buffet line there is fresh fruit and veggies. It will help your hair and skin have a nice look to it. Yes, put down the chips and pick up a piece of cantaloupe or red apple. As for the body work on the cars, it needs some welding, and a good paint job, it will be better.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Why
Years ago while listening to KPRW, I learned that the local new channels are owned by people that want to hear celebrity news. They are the ones that pressure the news channels to cover it. It has nothing to do with public taste or that fact that we live in SoCal., its not the public, its them.
I suppose that is why on the morning news I have to hear about "Dancing with the Stars" and "American Idol". I never have watched either one of these shows, nor will I ever. If I wanted to know what happened on these shows, wouldn't I have watched them in the first place or turned on the Tivo?
Since I couldn't care less, why should I be bothered in the AM when I have my morning coffee and just want to know about the weather or world affairs. I really shouldn't and I don't feel its even worthy entertainment news. That should be about films that are out, or new books coming to stores near you. While I feel bad for Sandra, I'm sure she is going through enough and we don't need to hear every detail of her private life. That used to be called, "family business". In other words, none of yours.
I have to go back to the first statement. Its not us, not the public that want this, its the owners of the stations. They also seem to only want local news, we only get a few drops of what is going on in the world. For that we have to turn to BBC America to find out what goes on in the US with better coverage than CNN.
It seems to make people more selfish, if they only learn about things close to them. People who want to know about the world around them have a different out look, more empathic if you will. If it all possible, try to look at other news sources than just local. It is out there for you. Why just listen to news of a show you could have watched the night before? Why just learn about local news? Why not the world?
I suppose that is why on the morning news I have to hear about "Dancing with the Stars" and "American Idol". I never have watched either one of these shows, nor will I ever. If I wanted to know what happened on these shows, wouldn't I have watched them in the first place or turned on the Tivo?
Since I couldn't care less, why should I be bothered in the AM when I have my morning coffee and just want to know about the weather or world affairs. I really shouldn't and I don't feel its even worthy entertainment news. That should be about films that are out, or new books coming to stores near you. While I feel bad for Sandra, I'm sure she is going through enough and we don't need to hear every detail of her private life. That used to be called, "family business". In other words, none of yours.
I have to go back to the first statement. Its not us, not the public that want this, its the owners of the stations. They also seem to only want local news, we only get a few drops of what is going on in the world. For that we have to turn to BBC America to find out what goes on in the US with better coverage than CNN.
It seems to make people more selfish, if they only learn about things close to them. People who want to know about the world around them have a different out look, more empathic if you will. If it all possible, try to look at other news sources than just local. It is out there for you. Why just listen to news of a show you could have watched the night before? Why just learn about local news? Why not the world?
Friday, March 19, 2010
Time
One of the things people worry about in modern times, is time. Time to do the laundry, time to exercise, time to get to the bank.
When you find yourself with a lot of time, such as being unemployed what do you do with your time? In the last month I have finished up taxes and cleaned my house. There are items I have sold on ebay and I have been taking long walks with my dogs. Not to say there hasn't been any waste of time. I have also looked up lots of old music videos and watched them on You Tube.
The other thing I am doing with my time is going to the Doctor. There are some health concerns I feel I should address. Why not? I have the time. Next on my agenda is to get my teeth cleaned and maybe whitened. While that may not be possible for some who have lost all benefits there are still positive things you can do. Cleaning the house and cooking for that special person in your life. There have been new dishes cooked up lately in my house.
Of course the most important thing is to look for a new job. Not just read the adds,make sure to fill out applications, send in resumes. There is nothing like just getting out with your cards, or resumes in hand and walking to the businesses you want to apply for and hand those things out. It makes you feel better to advertise for yourself, "Here I am and this is what I can do." Make sure you have a smile on your face and you reminded yourself of all the good things you are capable of doing. It may be good to write it down just before you head out, 'Things I like about me today' and list your good points. If you have the time to whine about what you should be doing, then use that time to do the things you need to do.
If all your worries are preventing you from moving forward, then get out and do something that will cheer you up. Why not go for a drive to the beach or a local park? What else makes you happy? A trip to the Museum? Its called a depression because that's how it makes you feel. Why not do something that feeds your soul? You know you have the time.
When you find yourself with a lot of time, such as being unemployed what do you do with your time? In the last month I have finished up taxes and cleaned my house. There are items I have sold on ebay and I have been taking long walks with my dogs. Not to say there hasn't been any waste of time. I have also looked up lots of old music videos and watched them on You Tube.
The other thing I am doing with my time is going to the Doctor. There are some health concerns I feel I should address. Why not? I have the time. Next on my agenda is to get my teeth cleaned and maybe whitened. While that may not be possible for some who have lost all benefits there are still positive things you can do. Cleaning the house and cooking for that special person in your life. There have been new dishes cooked up lately in my house.
Of course the most important thing is to look for a new job. Not just read the adds,make sure to fill out applications, send in resumes. There is nothing like just getting out with your cards, or resumes in hand and walking to the businesses you want to apply for and hand those things out. It makes you feel better to advertise for yourself, "Here I am and this is what I can do." Make sure you have a smile on your face and you reminded yourself of all the good things you are capable of doing. It may be good to write it down just before you head out, 'Things I like about me today' and list your good points. If you have the time to whine about what you should be doing, then use that time to do the things you need to do.
If all your worries are preventing you from moving forward, then get out and do something that will cheer you up. Why not go for a drive to the beach or a local park? What else makes you happy? A trip to the Museum? Its called a depression because that's how it makes you feel. Why not do something that feeds your soul? You know you have the time.
Friday, March 12, 2010
Character
In the news and in gossip news, like TMZ people are entertained by the failings of others. Its not funny when its you.
Some message boards end up being nothing but a big gossip mill with nothing but trash talking going on. What is funny to me it that is is usually all men. On some of them, not all. I guess just the ones I am talking about.
It really shows who is your friend and who is ready to say the worst about you or your friends. Its very childish and sad, it also says more about them then they realize. If you are the one gossiping then you are the one with the problem. If the ones that you are gossiping about don't return the favor it says something about them.
We are all adults, right? Why not act like it and behavor that way? If we are holding on to slights that happened years ago, it only hurts the one holdiing on to it, not the one who slighted them in the first place.
It also shows us who are real friends really are. They are the ones that stand by us in the good and the bad. They are the ones that call and ask us how we are doing, not talk behind our backs and not have the courage to say it to our faces. Then again maybe its best if they just keep it to themselves in the frist place. It takes great character to let it go and to not join in, at all.
Some message boards end up being nothing but a big gossip mill with nothing but trash talking going on. What is funny to me it that is is usually all men. On some of them, not all. I guess just the ones I am talking about.
It really shows who is your friend and who is ready to say the worst about you or your friends. Its very childish and sad, it also says more about them then they realize. If you are the one gossiping then you are the one with the problem. If the ones that you are gossiping about don't return the favor it says something about them.
We are all adults, right? Why not act like it and behavor that way? If we are holding on to slights that happened years ago, it only hurts the one holdiing on to it, not the one who slighted them in the first place.
It also shows us who are real friends really are. They are the ones that stand by us in the good and the bad. They are the ones that call and ask us how we are doing, not talk behind our backs and not have the courage to say it to our faces. Then again maybe its best if they just keep it to themselves in the frist place. It takes great character to let it go and to not join in, at all.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Helping
It seems we are all so stressed out these days, how can we help one another? It's as if we can only think about ourselves. Sure there are phone numbers to call and donate money to relief efforts and that feels good.
What do people really need? Comfort, and food. Can we just get together with friends and share a meal? We were able to do that this last week and it was nice. Instead of just watching TV we took time to visit with our friends. We played a long game of Uno and share in cooking dinner. It was really nice.
This Sunday is my annual Oscar Party. I usually have my girl friends over and we watch the show, drink Champagne and share some food. It has been hard this time getting my girls together, we are all so busy. I keep telling them, "yes we are busy and stressed. So let's just get together and forget it for a while." They understand.
Today I will be doing my recycling and using the money to get my nails done for the weekend. Why Not? A little luxury goes a long way. We may not have much these days, but we can still share a simple meal and some time with each other. Yes, my Oscar party will be more simple than in past years, but I will still have bubbly. Anyone that really knows me knows not to call me on Oscar Sunday,(unless it's for directions to my house) the girls anti-supper bowl party!
What do people really need? Comfort, and food. Can we just get together with friends and share a meal? We were able to do that this last week and it was nice. Instead of just watching TV we took time to visit with our friends. We played a long game of Uno and share in cooking dinner. It was really nice.
This Sunday is my annual Oscar Party. I usually have my girl friends over and we watch the show, drink Champagne and share some food. It has been hard this time getting my girls together, we are all so busy. I keep telling them, "yes we are busy and stressed. So let's just get together and forget it for a while." They understand.
Today I will be doing my recycling and using the money to get my nails done for the weekend. Why Not? A little luxury goes a long way. We may not have much these days, but we can still share a simple meal and some time with each other. Yes, my Oscar party will be more simple than in past years, but I will still have bubbly. Anyone that really knows me knows not to call me on Oscar Sunday,(unless it's for directions to my house) the girls anti-supper bowl party!
Friday, February 26, 2010
Artist
Along with other stereotypes Artist share the one that they are all nuts and emotional recks and have messy lives.
Its true that Jack Kerouac had a messy life and while he wrote well his home life left much to be desired. Jazz musician Chet Baker struggled with drug issues and in the last movie made about him, his children begged him to spend more time with them and send money. He died before the movie was released.
Does that mean that as an artist you are doomed to have an unhappy messed up life? Sometimes it does feel like that. In seems that being sensitive to the world around you can feel overwhelming, and your heart goes out to everyone all at once.
It takes time to direct your energy to one thing at a time. I have found if I take on too much I am left not only with out energy but with out a sense of accomplishment. While some can multitask, others of us need to work on one project at a time and just get it done. Then we can think about other things, issues and so on.
As for being a mess, in some ways I am and in others not. I know I have very strong views about family. In fact in my dreams lately I have been working them out. Sure it would be nice if I had a loving and supportive family but I do not. When I am about to try something new, like I am now, I watch movies that make me feel good. I get inspired by dance and art, then I have the courage to try something new.
That is what works for me. Getting up and dancing is great for my soul. For others it is just a walk with the dogs or reading. No, as an artist I do not have to be a mess, I just have to do one thing at a time.
Its true that Jack Kerouac had a messy life and while he wrote well his home life left much to be desired. Jazz musician Chet Baker struggled with drug issues and in the last movie made about him, his children begged him to spend more time with them and send money. He died before the movie was released.
Does that mean that as an artist you are doomed to have an unhappy messed up life? Sometimes it does feel like that. In seems that being sensitive to the world around you can feel overwhelming, and your heart goes out to everyone all at once.
It takes time to direct your energy to one thing at a time. I have found if I take on too much I am left not only with out energy but with out a sense of accomplishment. While some can multitask, others of us need to work on one project at a time and just get it done. Then we can think about other things, issues and so on.
As for being a mess, in some ways I am and in others not. I know I have very strong views about family. In fact in my dreams lately I have been working them out. Sure it would be nice if I had a loving and supportive family but I do not. When I am about to try something new, like I am now, I watch movies that make me feel good. I get inspired by dance and art, then I have the courage to try something new.
That is what works for me. Getting up and dancing is great for my soul. For others it is just a walk with the dogs or reading. No, as an artist I do not have to be a mess, I just have to do one thing at a time.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Pets
This week was the annual Westminster Kennel Club show, and if you don't already know, 'Sadie' the Scottish Terrier won Best in Show.
Seeing as Scotties are my signature dog, all of my friends pretty much knew I was going to be impossible to live with this week. One didn't even bother with the normal, "How are you doing?" text message but simple began with "Yeah OK a Scottie Won at Westminster...."
Now by signature dog, I mean that own Scotties and am very loyal to the breed. When I got to the Great Western Terrier Show in Long Beach in the summer, I only visit the Scottie ring and watch the Scotties. I have lots of purses shaped like Scotties, and when I don't wear something showing the breed to that show, I get scolded by the vendors that know me.
Yes we all have our favorites and we all can go on and on about the virtues of said breed. One thing is for sure, there are enough good dog qualities out there to suit every one. That's one of the great things in life, if you love cats, there are tons of cats to love. There are birds, fish and hamsters whatever your fancy. As with most projects please take the time to learn the most you can about whatever animal you want for a pet. In the show time and again they would mention the strong personalities of the dogs and just say it, "This is not for the 1st time dog owner."
Since a lot of people have lost their homes, shelters have been flooded with purebred dogs, which you can adopt, already spayed or neutered. There are breed rescues if you just have to have a certain dog.
Go ahead and hug your pet and maybe find one at the shelter that needs a good home. You never know that you might find the best friend you need.
Seeing as Scotties are my signature dog, all of my friends pretty much knew I was going to be impossible to live with this week. One didn't even bother with the normal, "How are you doing?" text message but simple began with "Yeah OK a Scottie Won at Westminster...."
Now by signature dog, I mean that own Scotties and am very loyal to the breed. When I got to the Great Western Terrier Show in Long Beach in the summer, I only visit the Scottie ring and watch the Scotties. I have lots of purses shaped like Scotties, and when I don't wear something showing the breed to that show, I get scolded by the vendors that know me.
Yes we all have our favorites and we all can go on and on about the virtues of said breed. One thing is for sure, there are enough good dog qualities out there to suit every one. That's one of the great things in life, if you love cats, there are tons of cats to love. There are birds, fish and hamsters whatever your fancy. As with most projects please take the time to learn the most you can about whatever animal you want for a pet. In the show time and again they would mention the strong personalities of the dogs and just say it, "This is not for the 1st time dog owner."
Since a lot of people have lost their homes, shelters have been flooded with purebred dogs, which you can adopt, already spayed or neutered. There are breed rescues if you just have to have a certain dog.
Go ahead and hug your pet and maybe find one at the shelter that needs a good home. You never know that you might find the best friend you need.
Friday, February 12, 2010
Out side the Box
I have been to so many seminars on writing and writers conferences, one thing I have learned is to keep your options open. Do not just think about one form of expression of avenue so much that you don't leave room to think of another. On woman that spoke to a writers group talked about how she never thought she would be in TV, but it came up and she went for it.
These days we all need to grasp at every opportunity. You can not stop networking and making connections. You really never know what will come up if you just open your mouth. A week ago I meet some one, via a friend that could help with the sale of some items we have laying around. I would have never know if I didn't ask the right questions and get to know the person across the table from me.
Its been said, 'Its not what you know, its who you know' and it is so true. I have been networking on my own for the last few years and it is really helped. In the last week I have opened myself to a new opportunity I would have never thought of in the last year. Sure jobs are scarce these days, so go out and make one for yourself. Find a need that people have and fill that need. Do people need you to run their cat to the Vet while they are at work? Will they pay you for that?
Can you do some shopping for some one, or can you cook a meal for a busy mom? Will she pay you for that? The needs are there, can you go out and think, yes, outside the box?
These days we all need to grasp at every opportunity. You can not stop networking and making connections. You really never know what will come up if you just open your mouth. A week ago I meet some one, via a friend that could help with the sale of some items we have laying around. I would have never know if I didn't ask the right questions and get to know the person across the table from me.
Its been said, 'Its not what you know, its who you know' and it is so true. I have been networking on my own for the last few years and it is really helped. In the last week I have opened myself to a new opportunity I would have never thought of in the last year. Sure jobs are scarce these days, so go out and make one for yourself. Find a need that people have and fill that need. Do people need you to run their cat to the Vet while they are at work? Will they pay you for that?
Can you do some shopping for some one, or can you cook a meal for a busy mom? Will she pay you for that? The needs are there, can you go out and think, yes, outside the box?
Friday, February 5, 2010
Courage
When you are younger and you see your parents with money problems some times it doesn't make sense. You feel as if they should always have a handle on things, they are the adults after all. Maybe its the parents on TV that give us that idea. The Brady bunch and other TV families never seemed to have issues with money, so why should mine?
Now that I have lived a while and have seen and felt the ups and downs of the economy I can understand the sleepless nights my mother must have had. Of course she didn't help, by spending like she did and she counted on my fathers child support money that rarely was seen. With what I have been through in the last year, I am so grateful I don't have to worry about children and their needs as well.
It may seem when we are young that this is what adults have to go through and it should be easy for them. Now I see that it is really complicated stuff and it takes a lot of courage to face up to these challenges.
We have to keep being resourceful and look at the example our grandparents gave us. they lived through the last depression. While that one lasted years, I can only hope this one doesn't. If it does I still have my chickens and fresh eggs.
On thing that has helped is cooking at home and trying new recipes. I tried on this week and just cooking it up made me happy. We still have a long way to go to be back where we were a few years ago and there is still some after affects of last year lingering. The only thing to do is to solider on and keep going, yes it takes courage to keep it up. In the end, it is worth it, we learn we can take more hardship than we ever knew. With our friends to help us we can make it.
Now that I have lived a while and have seen and felt the ups and downs of the economy I can understand the sleepless nights my mother must have had. Of course she didn't help, by spending like she did and she counted on my fathers child support money that rarely was seen. With what I have been through in the last year, I am so grateful I don't have to worry about children and their needs as well.
It may seem when we are young that this is what adults have to go through and it should be easy for them. Now I see that it is really complicated stuff and it takes a lot of courage to face up to these challenges.
We have to keep being resourceful and look at the example our grandparents gave us. they lived through the last depression. While that one lasted years, I can only hope this one doesn't. If it does I still have my chickens and fresh eggs.
On thing that has helped is cooking at home and trying new recipes. I tried on this week and just cooking it up made me happy. We still have a long way to go to be back where we were a few years ago and there is still some after affects of last year lingering. The only thing to do is to solider on and keep going, yes it takes courage to keep it up. In the end, it is worth it, we learn we can take more hardship than we ever knew. With our friends to help us we can make it.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
MTV where are you?
When I was in Jr. High MTV came on the scene. The first videos look lame and cheap if you see them now, at the time they were avant garde and the latest thing.
It was people like Micheal Jackson that started to spend money and make them like movies.
Still it was a while before everyone else could catch up, and only others like Madonna and Prince, people with some money that could make them look nice. You can tell even now, when some one is starting and when they have made some money, how much the look of the video is changed. At the begging they will have their friends in the background and maybe classic cars that are rented. Once the album goes platinum then there are models in the party scenes and their own flashy cars.
What kind of lives do they show us? Usually a very materialistic life throwing around bottles of champagne and flashing money, labels and jewel encrusted goblets. Its as if they are telling us, one day if you have all this money you will be happy and party like this. Isn't that great? Don't you want to be like us?
Of course now the only place you can really see these videos is on You Tube. It is nice with out the advertisements. Also more money is being spent on all the reality shows, which I don't watch. Sure it was always a fictional world that was shown, but it was fun. Many stories were told and they all differed, OK the hip-hop world told the same stories again and again. Yes pop videos and rock ones were similar as well. It was fun to have one type of story then another. It was like watching your favorite film over and over again. Sure nothing changes, but you feel better going into that world just for a little while.
Do we need to keep seeing washed up rock stars trying to get together with a new person? Do we need to see that others will do for a "Shot at love?" I can't bring myself to watch people make fools of themselves like that. There isn't the sense of fun and escapism as watching some one dance on top of a building or a rock band play in the woods with no electrical outlet to be found in three miles. Yes I know those days are long over. This last decade was not great and we could use a little escapism again. Thank you Lady GaGa!
It was people like Micheal Jackson that started to spend money and make them like movies.
Still it was a while before everyone else could catch up, and only others like Madonna and Prince, people with some money that could make them look nice. You can tell even now, when some one is starting and when they have made some money, how much the look of the video is changed. At the begging they will have their friends in the background and maybe classic cars that are rented. Once the album goes platinum then there are models in the party scenes and their own flashy cars.
What kind of lives do they show us? Usually a very materialistic life throwing around bottles of champagne and flashing money, labels and jewel encrusted goblets. Its as if they are telling us, one day if you have all this money you will be happy and party like this. Isn't that great? Don't you want to be like us?
Of course now the only place you can really see these videos is on You Tube. It is nice with out the advertisements. Also more money is being spent on all the reality shows, which I don't watch. Sure it was always a fictional world that was shown, but it was fun. Many stories were told and they all differed, OK the hip-hop world told the same stories again and again. Yes pop videos and rock ones were similar as well. It was fun to have one type of story then another. It was like watching your favorite film over and over again. Sure nothing changes, but you feel better going into that world just for a little while.
Do we need to keep seeing washed up rock stars trying to get together with a new person? Do we need to see that others will do for a "Shot at love?" I can't bring myself to watch people make fools of themselves like that. There isn't the sense of fun and escapism as watching some one dance on top of a building or a rock band play in the woods with no electrical outlet to be found in three miles. Yes I know those days are long over. This last decade was not great and we could use a little escapism again. Thank you Lady GaGa!
Friday, January 8, 2010
What next?
There was a few good things that happened in 2009 but for the most part is was a bad year. I couldn't even get out of the year with out one more bad thing happening. On the last day of the year a knocked over the only running scooter in my shop with my own truck. I guess I had to go out with a bang.
So far this year, I have a lot of new opportunities opened up to me. While I am still working on getting my book published, I have to get a new job. As for my writing I was able to get three articles published last year and did a reading in Hollywood in December of 2009. I have had my friends view it on You Tube and got some positive feed back. It felt great to get up there and read.
As for my dancing, there are some new avenues opening up and I have no idea which road to take at this point. I will do some research and see what comes up. Belly dancing has turned out to have a life of its own. I now have plenty of outfits and my first costume fits me better now, than when I first bought it. In fact I need to take the belt in, its too big. That makes me so happy.
I am glad I spent time last year taking care of my health, now I have more energy to tackle these new challenges. Since it is a new decade and I don't look as old as I thought I would by now, it maybe time to rethink and redo my hair. If anything I will try to experiment with more up-do's. I also have plans to try new recipes at home, that should be fun. I have no idea what 2010 has in store for me, but I can't wait to see. It seems like I might have some good things come my way, as a reward for getting through last year.
So far this year, I have a lot of new opportunities opened up to me. While I am still working on getting my book published, I have to get a new job. As for my writing I was able to get three articles published last year and did a reading in Hollywood in December of 2009. I have had my friends view it on You Tube and got some positive feed back. It felt great to get up there and read.
As for my dancing, there are some new avenues opening up and I have no idea which road to take at this point. I will do some research and see what comes up. Belly dancing has turned out to have a life of its own. I now have plenty of outfits and my first costume fits me better now, than when I first bought it. In fact I need to take the belt in, its too big. That makes me so happy.
I am glad I spent time last year taking care of my health, now I have more energy to tackle these new challenges. Since it is a new decade and I don't look as old as I thought I would by now, it maybe time to rethink and redo my hair. If anything I will try to experiment with more up-do's. I also have plans to try new recipes at home, that should be fun. I have no idea what 2010 has in store for me, but I can't wait to see. It seems like I might have some good things come my way, as a reward for getting through last year.
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