With age and time we are supposed to acquire wisdom. Some of us do and others do not. Sometimes its a matter of how much drug use was involved in the younger years. I don't say that for myself, but for others. I have seen family members take an extra 10 years to figure things out.
The things I have learned at this age and with two failed attempts at business, is never to do business with friends. I hate that I have learned that. Not that it isn't true, it is all the expense and time and loss that has happened. It also hurts that now I am so protective of my pocket book. I have always been a generous person, to the extent that I could be. I would have loved to do more. Now with all the losses I have nothing much to give. If I have some food I will share it. I don't want my friends to go hungry.
What is so sad about all this, is that I was perfectly able to say no to my family. I have not talked with my mother for the better part of 10 years and that suits me just fine. If I had been close with her, I would have been guilt tripped in to paying for her life, not mine. I would be in worse shape than I am now.
However I was happy to help two friends and both times it turned our badly. We did not make a profit and it was a waste of time and money. Yes, I feel stupid about it all and while I have learned my lesson it was at a great cost. Some people are just takers and some are givers. My mother is a taker and that's why I'm not around her. These others are takers as well.
I don't want to be bitter and only look out for myself. I just have to be careful and resolve never to enter into business with friends. It has made me more on the alert, and I suppose that is a good thing. I suppose I didn't think my friends would be worse then my family. It has caused me great pain and sleepless nights and I'm glad most of that is behind me. My house could use a lot of work, but we don't have the money to fix it. So for now I am working hard at getting a job. I have to rely on myself and not friends. If I want things, I will have to work for them. It would be nice to see justice and to get some of what was lost, recovered. But at my age and given the time I have waited. Wisdom tells me, "Don't hold your breath!"
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Asking
One of the things I have learned from working with men, is their ability to ask for and get what they want.
I have always found that to be pushy, but aren't they? If you watch "The Donald" he seems really pushy. I don't watch his reality TV Show, but I have heard about him enough to see that pushy side to him. Before the TV Show there was the book "The Art of the Deal", by Donald Trump. We
Part of being a "good girl" is not being pushy or demanding. As I get older, I am not worried about being a "good girl" I am more worried about not getting what I want and deserve at this age.
The key to this, is asking for it. Asking for the chance to perform, then following through and doing a good job. I have always done a good job. I have not always drawn people's attention to it. While it may seem simple to a man, this seems to be in direct conflict with how I was raised. It takes a lot for me to stand up and show off and self-promote. If I don't, I know I won't get anywhere. Yes, I have to ask people to read my blog, my 1st chapter of my book and ask if they will come to my performance. Usually the answer is Yes.
I have always found that to be pushy, but aren't they? If you watch "The Donald" he seems really pushy. I don't watch his reality TV Show, but I have heard about him enough to see that pushy side to him. Before the TV Show there was the book "The Art of the Deal", by Donald Trump. We
Part of being a "good girl" is not being pushy or demanding. As I get older, I am not worried about being a "good girl" I am more worried about not getting what I want and deserve at this age.
The key to this, is asking for it. Asking for the chance to perform, then following through and doing a good job. I have always done a good job. I have not always drawn people's attention to it. While it may seem simple to a man, this seems to be in direct conflict with how I was raised. It takes a lot for me to stand up and show off and self-promote. If I don't, I know I won't get anywhere. Yes, I have to ask people to read my blog, my 1st chapter of my book and ask if they will come to my performance. Usually the answer is Yes.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Car show
Last weekend I was able to go to car show in Vegas, not being a gambler I couldn't care less about the casinos. I work too hard for my money to throw it away.
It was nice to see classic cars some of which really had nice body work and others that don't. There were a lot of Rockabilly girls and some in outrageous outfits. As we get older we can also say, while the girls are pretty they just don't need to run around naked like that. Cute is cute and pretty lady-like out fits are always great. And yes trashy will always be trashy. There is no need to show off all that God gave you, in day light with small kids around. Mystery is worth its weight in gold. Make the guys work to see it, why give it away all up front? Yes I had a nice modest outfit on, and I still looked nice.
As for the cars, most were from SoCal. Not that its a surprise, since car culture is a SoCal thing. We have the warm weather to keep our cars looking nice. When you watch things like "American Pickers" you can see that other cars are going to waste in some ones yard, back east. They need to be rescued.
You do have to really look at them, some have really bad body work. Both the cars and the girls. Some are more obvious than others. So choose wisely. As for the girls, it can be helped with regular exercise and a better choice in food. Even in a buffet line there is fresh fruit and veggies. It will help your hair and skin have a nice look to it. Yes, put down the chips and pick up a piece of cantaloupe or red apple. As for the body work on the cars, it needs some welding, and a good paint job, it will be better.
It was nice to see classic cars some of which really had nice body work and others that don't. There were a lot of Rockabilly girls and some in outrageous outfits. As we get older we can also say, while the girls are pretty they just don't need to run around naked like that. Cute is cute and pretty lady-like out fits are always great. And yes trashy will always be trashy. There is no need to show off all that God gave you, in day light with small kids around. Mystery is worth its weight in gold. Make the guys work to see it, why give it away all up front? Yes I had a nice modest outfit on, and I still looked nice.
As for the cars, most were from SoCal. Not that its a surprise, since car culture is a SoCal thing. We have the warm weather to keep our cars looking nice. When you watch things like "American Pickers" you can see that other cars are going to waste in some ones yard, back east. They need to be rescued.
You do have to really look at them, some have really bad body work. Both the cars and the girls. Some are more obvious than others. So choose wisely. As for the girls, it can be helped with regular exercise and a better choice in food. Even in a buffet line there is fresh fruit and veggies. It will help your hair and skin have a nice look to it. Yes, put down the chips and pick up a piece of cantaloupe or red apple. As for the body work on the cars, it needs some welding, and a good paint job, it will be better.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Why
Years ago while listening to KPRW, I learned that the local new channels are owned by people that want to hear celebrity news. They are the ones that pressure the news channels to cover it. It has nothing to do with public taste or that fact that we live in SoCal., its not the public, its them.
I suppose that is why on the morning news I have to hear about "Dancing with the Stars" and "American Idol". I never have watched either one of these shows, nor will I ever. If I wanted to know what happened on these shows, wouldn't I have watched them in the first place or turned on the Tivo?
Since I couldn't care less, why should I be bothered in the AM when I have my morning coffee and just want to know about the weather or world affairs. I really shouldn't and I don't feel its even worthy entertainment news. That should be about films that are out, or new books coming to stores near you. While I feel bad for Sandra, I'm sure she is going through enough and we don't need to hear every detail of her private life. That used to be called, "family business". In other words, none of yours.
I have to go back to the first statement. Its not us, not the public that want this, its the owners of the stations. They also seem to only want local news, we only get a few drops of what is going on in the world. For that we have to turn to BBC America to find out what goes on in the US with better coverage than CNN.
It seems to make people more selfish, if they only learn about things close to them. People who want to know about the world around them have a different out look, more empathic if you will. If it all possible, try to look at other news sources than just local. It is out there for you. Why just listen to news of a show you could have watched the night before? Why just learn about local news? Why not the world?
I suppose that is why on the morning news I have to hear about "Dancing with the Stars" and "American Idol". I never have watched either one of these shows, nor will I ever. If I wanted to know what happened on these shows, wouldn't I have watched them in the first place or turned on the Tivo?
Since I couldn't care less, why should I be bothered in the AM when I have my morning coffee and just want to know about the weather or world affairs. I really shouldn't and I don't feel its even worthy entertainment news. That should be about films that are out, or new books coming to stores near you. While I feel bad for Sandra, I'm sure she is going through enough and we don't need to hear every detail of her private life. That used to be called, "family business". In other words, none of yours.
I have to go back to the first statement. Its not us, not the public that want this, its the owners of the stations. They also seem to only want local news, we only get a few drops of what is going on in the world. For that we have to turn to BBC America to find out what goes on in the US with better coverage than CNN.
It seems to make people more selfish, if they only learn about things close to them. People who want to know about the world around them have a different out look, more empathic if you will. If it all possible, try to look at other news sources than just local. It is out there for you. Why just listen to news of a show you could have watched the night before? Why just learn about local news? Why not the world?
Friday, March 19, 2010
Time
One of the things people worry about in modern times, is time. Time to do the laundry, time to exercise, time to get to the bank.
When you find yourself with a lot of time, such as being unemployed what do you do with your time? In the last month I have finished up taxes and cleaned my house. There are items I have sold on ebay and I have been taking long walks with my dogs. Not to say there hasn't been any waste of time. I have also looked up lots of old music videos and watched them on You Tube.
The other thing I am doing with my time is going to the Doctor. There are some health concerns I feel I should address. Why not? I have the time. Next on my agenda is to get my teeth cleaned and maybe whitened. While that may not be possible for some who have lost all benefits there are still positive things you can do. Cleaning the house and cooking for that special person in your life. There have been new dishes cooked up lately in my house.
Of course the most important thing is to look for a new job. Not just read the adds,make sure to fill out applications, send in resumes. There is nothing like just getting out with your cards, or resumes in hand and walking to the businesses you want to apply for and hand those things out. It makes you feel better to advertise for yourself, "Here I am and this is what I can do." Make sure you have a smile on your face and you reminded yourself of all the good things you are capable of doing. It may be good to write it down just before you head out, 'Things I like about me today' and list your good points. If you have the time to whine about what you should be doing, then use that time to do the things you need to do.
If all your worries are preventing you from moving forward, then get out and do something that will cheer you up. Why not go for a drive to the beach or a local park? What else makes you happy? A trip to the Museum? Its called a depression because that's how it makes you feel. Why not do something that feeds your soul? You know you have the time.
When you find yourself with a lot of time, such as being unemployed what do you do with your time? In the last month I have finished up taxes and cleaned my house. There are items I have sold on ebay and I have been taking long walks with my dogs. Not to say there hasn't been any waste of time. I have also looked up lots of old music videos and watched them on You Tube.
The other thing I am doing with my time is going to the Doctor. There are some health concerns I feel I should address. Why not? I have the time. Next on my agenda is to get my teeth cleaned and maybe whitened. While that may not be possible for some who have lost all benefits there are still positive things you can do. Cleaning the house and cooking for that special person in your life. There have been new dishes cooked up lately in my house.
Of course the most important thing is to look for a new job. Not just read the adds,make sure to fill out applications, send in resumes. There is nothing like just getting out with your cards, or resumes in hand and walking to the businesses you want to apply for and hand those things out. It makes you feel better to advertise for yourself, "Here I am and this is what I can do." Make sure you have a smile on your face and you reminded yourself of all the good things you are capable of doing. It may be good to write it down just before you head out, 'Things I like about me today' and list your good points. If you have the time to whine about what you should be doing, then use that time to do the things you need to do.
If all your worries are preventing you from moving forward, then get out and do something that will cheer you up. Why not go for a drive to the beach or a local park? What else makes you happy? A trip to the Museum? Its called a depression because that's how it makes you feel. Why not do something that feeds your soul? You know you have the time.
Friday, March 12, 2010
Character
In the news and in gossip news, like TMZ people are entertained by the failings of others. Its not funny when its you.
Some message boards end up being nothing but a big gossip mill with nothing but trash talking going on. What is funny to me it that is is usually all men. On some of them, not all. I guess just the ones I am talking about.
It really shows who is your friend and who is ready to say the worst about you or your friends. Its very childish and sad, it also says more about them then they realize. If you are the one gossiping then you are the one with the problem. If the ones that you are gossiping about don't return the favor it says something about them.
We are all adults, right? Why not act like it and behavor that way? If we are holding on to slights that happened years ago, it only hurts the one holdiing on to it, not the one who slighted them in the first place.
It also shows us who are real friends really are. They are the ones that stand by us in the good and the bad. They are the ones that call and ask us how we are doing, not talk behind our backs and not have the courage to say it to our faces. Then again maybe its best if they just keep it to themselves in the frist place. It takes great character to let it go and to not join in, at all.
Some message boards end up being nothing but a big gossip mill with nothing but trash talking going on. What is funny to me it that is is usually all men. On some of them, not all. I guess just the ones I am talking about.
It really shows who is your friend and who is ready to say the worst about you or your friends. Its very childish and sad, it also says more about them then they realize. If you are the one gossiping then you are the one with the problem. If the ones that you are gossiping about don't return the favor it says something about them.
We are all adults, right? Why not act like it and behavor that way? If we are holding on to slights that happened years ago, it only hurts the one holdiing on to it, not the one who slighted them in the first place.
It also shows us who are real friends really are. They are the ones that stand by us in the good and the bad. They are the ones that call and ask us how we are doing, not talk behind our backs and not have the courage to say it to our faces. Then again maybe its best if they just keep it to themselves in the frist place. It takes great character to let it go and to not join in, at all.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Helping
It seems we are all so stressed out these days, how can we help one another? It's as if we can only think about ourselves. Sure there are phone numbers to call and donate money to relief efforts and that feels good.
What do people really need? Comfort, and food. Can we just get together with friends and share a meal? We were able to do that this last week and it was nice. Instead of just watching TV we took time to visit with our friends. We played a long game of Uno and share in cooking dinner. It was really nice.
This Sunday is my annual Oscar Party. I usually have my girl friends over and we watch the show, drink Champagne and share some food. It has been hard this time getting my girls together, we are all so busy. I keep telling them, "yes we are busy and stressed. So let's just get together and forget it for a while." They understand.
Today I will be doing my recycling and using the money to get my nails done for the weekend. Why Not? A little luxury goes a long way. We may not have much these days, but we can still share a simple meal and some time with each other. Yes, my Oscar party will be more simple than in past years, but I will still have bubbly. Anyone that really knows me knows not to call me on Oscar Sunday,(unless it's for directions to my house) the girls anti-supper bowl party!
What do people really need? Comfort, and food. Can we just get together with friends and share a meal? We were able to do that this last week and it was nice. Instead of just watching TV we took time to visit with our friends. We played a long game of Uno and share in cooking dinner. It was really nice.
This Sunday is my annual Oscar Party. I usually have my girl friends over and we watch the show, drink Champagne and share some food. It has been hard this time getting my girls together, we are all so busy. I keep telling them, "yes we are busy and stressed. So let's just get together and forget it for a while." They understand.
Today I will be doing my recycling and using the money to get my nails done for the weekend. Why Not? A little luxury goes a long way. We may not have much these days, but we can still share a simple meal and some time with each other. Yes, my Oscar party will be more simple than in past years, but I will still have bubbly. Anyone that really knows me knows not to call me on Oscar Sunday,(unless it's for directions to my house) the girls anti-supper bowl party!
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