Mom's

I recently found out gossip about my own family, from a friend. It seems that my sister no longer lives with my mother. From what I hear she lives back in Long Beach. That does cause me to be concerned since my sister had a lot of bad habits and friends that influenced her in those bad habits all back in Long Beach.

Her move does not surprise me, since she didn’t like the city that my mother lives in and she likes to live by the beach. I don’t know why she keeps going back to Long Beach, there are nicer places to live and nicer beaches.

The thing about my mother is that she is very hard to live with. She is very needy and my sister doesn’t do needy. My sister is not at all comforting and does not encourage but berates you when you are feeling down. There is no room for tears and while my mother doesn’t cry that much she does whine, a lot. My sister does not tolerate that.

When I have been low and was pouring out my heart to my sister she didn’t want it to last more than ten minutes and I should be done. If I exceeded that limit she would say, “Aren’t you done yet? Are you that Needy!” and yes raised her voice at me. I have listened to my mother all evening as she recounted her day and all the “slights” she imagined everyone in her office sent her way.

My mother will not stop being needy and wants everyone to listen endlessly to her complaints. My sister thinks everyone should get over themselves. She really doesn’t get over things that easily either, but she doesn’t have time to listen to people, she finds it offensive and thinks that when people tell them her problems, it means she is included in a group of losers. She considers this a put down, that people tell her their problems.

Neither one of these women are married. My mother was left by both of her husbands and now that I am an adult I can’t help but think it was because no one has that much time to pay attention to her.

As for my sister, she has no empathy for others and no patience. She feels every one should be tough like her and no one should be over weight or needy or have problems. So how can any one be close to her? Even men want to look to their wives to listen to them and to be supportive.

It comes as no surprise they parted ways. The both are unyielding, and they both think they are right. Both of them are wrong, they both need to compromise. They can’t do that if they think they are right.

I am so glad to be away from both of them and I never go to visit my mom’s place.