Thursday, July 22, 2010

Needed

There are things that we need and things that are wants. Sometime the same. We need to be loved and we want to be loved.

There are times when we have to say things that are unpleasant to hear. We need to and sometimes we want to. If we don't, its almost as if we will go mad not too.

Other times we need to eat and we want to eat our own food. Its a great thing and we relish it completely. We need to work, but we don't always enjoy the work we do. We have to resign ourselves to the fact that we need the money.

We need to have good close friends. Some times we need to tell them about our problems. Other times we don't need to let people know what is going on. We really don't need to have tons of friends, just a few close ones.

We like to think we are above it all. We need to learn we are not. We need to tell someone and hopefully if we are really blessed, the one will tell will take us in their arms and comfort us. We need to hear 'It will all be ok, you'll see'. Sure some times it won't. Isn't that what we needed to hear though?

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Staying In

In the last few years I have offten said that I don't mind staying in, as long as I have something interesting to eat. Sure we all have to cut back, but that doesn't mean I have tons of Mac and Cheese in my cupboard.

This last weekend I made Strawberry Jam and Oven dried tomatoes. The jam I have been using as a filling in crepes. I did break that up with some Nuttella today. We are meeting our friends at the Beer garden today for more food and drink.

The last few weekends we did go out, and went to the Hollywood Forever Cemetery for movie screenings. Everyone brings picnic dinners. We brought along some smoked chicken and Salmon with cream cheese and french bread. We would have had the same if we were at home. It doesn't cost a fortune, just some smart shopping and a little time, to pack it up.

This weekend we will go to the Symphony and an other picnic dinner. I have the sparkling wine already and some red wine, which will go great with chocolate. The Sparkling wine will go well with the chicken panini's. There are lost of free concerts in city's in the summer. Grab some chardonnay and some chicken salad sandwiches and get out there. We have been staying in too long. The rest of the week when I again have to stay in, I will treat myself to home made Chocolate Martinis and crepes with my own jam. Other wise it would be too dull!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Fair

As kids we used to whine, "that's not fair!". It could have been some one was cheating in a sport or game. It could have been the fact that our parents didn't have the money to take us out for ice cream.

As we got older we had to swallow our pride and admit 'life is not fair'. Its a bitter pill to swallow and it is never easy. Okay maybe at the end of the week at the end of the bar with drink in hand, it can go down easier.

One thing I have never found fair is women that let the passion out of their married life. Sure its an effort to put on something lacy and when both people work it can be hard to find the time. Its there something great about being desired? That some one wants you? Has to have you? Of course!

So why be ridged? Why keep that away from your man, and in effect away from yourself? If we want our men to stay faithful we have to give them a reason. So take that long hot bath, get nice and smooth and fresh smelling for him, why not?

There is tons of advertising out there, with cute touched up photos of women ready to sell sex for anything. Soap. Remember people it's just soap. Or car tires or whatever. Again its not fair, not all of us are blessed with 'Model' looks. But remember ladies, your man picked you. You are still worthy of his attention.

So get some nice lotion,yes you can even find bath salts at the 99cent store. Smell nice and fresh and get it on with your man. Fair is fair, right?

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Grace

There are times when we have to set aside vanity and go out with out makeup and jewelry. There are only a few times, when we go to the beach and when we have to go to the hospital.

The later is what I am talking about now. How can a visit there be done with Grace? First off, prep ahead of time. Take a night to do a facial and waxing before hand. Next take off your nail polish and make sure your nails are filed neatly.

Do what you are told. When the nurse tells you no liquor and no liquids after 12.30 pm the night before, do it. In fact stop at 10.30 instead, and no cheating. This is not the time to exercise your free will and do as you please. They also cover no illegal drugs, again all these rules are for your safety.

The interview was unusual. I have never had them ask me so many personal questions. Am I in an abusive house. I guess they wouldn't let me go home to that? I never knew they asked things like that. No on mentions that on TV.

What to do in those endless array of waiting rooms? Bring a book or grab a magazine. I found a great article on Panama hats in the Forbes lifestyle magazine. I also brought along a novel I have been reading. A good thing to bring, your Ipod. Put on some soothing music. Maybe not hard rock, something relaxing instead.

For an operation, they tell you to leave your valuables at home. Have a friend or relative handy to take care of your things while you are under. Also have them hold things you will need. I made sure to bring my softest, fluffiest slippers to go home in. Extra pillows in the car were already on stand by for me.

Let go! Yes we can be control freaks. I am used to being the one that helps everyone. It can be hard to be on the other side. I had to take a moment and think about what was scaring me. For me, my first memory of my life is being alone in the hospital when I have pneumonia. I almost died. My fear was based on my younger life. Then I thought about now, I am in the hands of trained professionals. They have all gone to schools and learned how to do their jobs, they wouldn't be here if they didn't know what to do. Let them do their job, listen to instructions and just let go.

Get to know who is working with you. I had a really nice nurse who was concerned about my blood sugar levels and did some research for me while I was under. She was very effectuate. The nurse in surgery was nice as was the handsome anesthesiologist. I made jokes with them before going under, it helps.

Afterwards, speak up. I was cold and in pain when I came to, in the recovery room. I didn't yell, but called out in a mild tone. "Nurse,Nurse!My pain is at 10." She a very considerate person, took care of me and helped me get some pain killers and breathe and did what she was trained to do. It was a real comfort and the pain went away. I had some juice and water before leaving. I also thanked all the nurses for their care and attention to detail.

Home. Don't think you are tuffer than you are. Relax, this is not time to clean the house or cook meals. If you are that controlling, you will have made meals ahead of time labeled with the days of the week for some one to microwave. I have spent the last few days, in bed watching my favorite films and shows on DVD. I need to take a shower and I have only lifted my spoon or fork. Nothing else. All the water, broth and jello diet, along with all the pain killer induced naps have made my skin look great. Bed rest, is just that. While I feel better today and will leave the house, I am not going to walk the dogs for two miles. There is no need to rush things. This weekend will be low key as well.

With a little planing ahead of time. I cleaned out the guest room, since I would be using it. And some trips to the store, my man has done all of those. For extra food and broth. Keep you head up and you can have a visit that will help you and you can still do this with a little grace.